Will This Work for Me?

a) Which emotional stage of development a person experienced their main core wounding at plays nearly THE most significant part in the ‘Depression’ looking the way it does.

b) The magnitude of emotional pain that a person has built up and carries in their Nero-Muscular system. For example a person who carries 1000 units of emotional trauma induced pain will have the more ‘classic’ severe types of Depression, whilst a person who carries only 100 units of emotional pain resulting from their core emotional trauma will have much less severe symptoms, therefore be ‘diagnose’ with one of the more ‘milder/less sever ‘forms’ of depression.

c) The type of defence structure will have a massive part to play in how well an individual will ‘succumb’ to the symptoms and how they will ‘appear’ from the outside also.

For example if a person’s emotional trauma at the 1st stage of emotional development results in 1000 units of emotional pain. It is in the more sever range of pain build up, hence the symptoms are more severe and they may be  classified for example as the more severe ‘ bi-polar’ ‘ form of depression, which has very particular traits associated with this stage of emotional development wounding.

If a person suffers from a wounding at stage 2 of their emotional development, the pain build up may only be 750 units of pain, so the severity of the depression/depression symptoms will be less and they may be classified with ‘chronic depression’, which has its main symptoms and traits directly connected to not having their emotional needs met at  the 2nd emotional stage of development.

Some people  for example, have a major life change, such as leaving their country of  origin, divorce or a dream or business  not succeeding, that they were  majorly attached to, so they have what would be classified as the less severe reactive depression’ and since they only have 250 units of pain to deal (as an example), they may have different symptoms and duration of symptoms, thereby they ‘work through it relatively quickly. Some on the other hand have their depression from sexual or physical abuse  that was recurring for months or years and the pain build up is in the 10,000’s and the symptoms are very specific to these causes of depression the stress the trauma cases – it is not the other way around and the chemical changes cause the depression.

Finally, the individual’s defence structures. Have you ever had the thought when you looked at someone and said to yourself…’Gee, I wish I was like them,  they have it together, the house, the car, the career, the wife…’’ these defence are literally called ‘LOOKING GOOD DEFENSES’. From the outside it all seems like they are perfect, but that is part of their pain, the drive and need to “prove” and ‘appear’ they are good enough’ trying to still wins mums and or dads love by being a driven workaholic ( did you know statistically, workaholism is killing people more than alcoholism) addicted to successful , driven to be/look  perfect, but in their quiet moments, when alone and no-one is watching…the hole in their heart is the same as the rest of us.

They just mastered the defence that comes with the emotional wounding that occurs at the 5th stage of emotional development – the drive/the relentless pushing of themselves to cover up their feelings of inadequacy by doing whatever it takes to appear as adequate/good enough…even superior to the rest of us.